This week, we’re following around Summer, from Collins, Georgia. Per the usual, you can watch the whole business here.
Megan: Addiction has come up quite a few times this season. It’s interesting that Summer’s mom describes her addiction as a circular pattern, because that’s how it’s often talked about in the literature.
Chanel:I”m trying not to be messed up by the fact that DJ looks like a horrible former housemate of mine, complete with guitar playing.
M: DJ’s mom is so sweet! This is one of the first times this season that a parent has voiced expectations for the teens to continue education and pursue their desired careers after the baby is born.
C: I like that she said, ‘I’m a cheerleader for you.”
M: “Abortion. We don’t believe in that.”
C: A friend of mine says that abortion isn’t like Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny-it’s real. You can not like it, but you don’t really have the option to believe it’s not a thing. That being said, I’m glad someone’s naming it, saying that they don’t think it’s okay, and not pretending they don’t know about it, which is what it’s seemed like so far this season.
I’m not sure what the advantage is to telling S that she doesn’t know how hard it’s going to be. Again, NO ONE IS REALLY PREPARED FOR PARENTING.
M: “You don’t want to end up pregnant and fat like me”. Again with the body image!
C: “You’re scared of a needle, but you can have sex.” Is this a penis/needle comparison? Is there something I’m missing? I am uncomfortable.
M: I was hoping it was more of a danger comparison?
C: Oh, that’s better.
M: “You’ve got me and I’ve got you.” I hope DJ stays this sweet FOREVER.
C: Let’s hope so.
M: Poor Summer. She is going to have to be a mama to her baby and to her mama. I just want to give her a hug.
C: It’s tough to forgive your parents for being shitty parents, especially when they make you parent them.
M: At least she seems to have a good relationship with DJ’s parents. It’s hard to think where she would be if she were pregnant and didn’t have the support of her boyfriend’s parents.
C: Uh…DJ? MAYBE NOT A PUPPY RIGHT NOW. (And this is coming from ME, who will always, always choose puppies over children.)
M: Puppy + baby at the same time = worst idea.
C: I feel like my friends get married and THEN they get a dog, like a minute later. It’s supposedly some kind of prep for a child.
OH MY GD PUPPY
M: His family’s faces are like, “what are you doing?”
C: Summer is being super quiet.
M: I think it’s more of an issue between the family and DJ. On the bright side I think there will be a lot of opportunities for a viral baby/puppy Youtube video.
C: Cool, everyone. Tell her how horrible it’s going to be. Productive. It’s not like she’s scared shitless already or anything.
Whee! Melodramatic country music! And birth!
M: “I could punch somebody in the face right now”. Most honest description of labor ever?
C: Well, that was fucking terrifying.
M: If someone told me that my baby’s heart was beating too fast and breathing too frequently I would not be that calm.
I’m pretty sure that getting your GED is hard. All the stuff you have to know PLUS it’s a standardized test.
M: Not to mention no teachers. Wow, the parents are really supportive of them being teen parents but pretty shaming when it comes to educational attainment.
C: They’re scared she won’t do it, probably.
M: I wonder how much of it is related to DJ and their expectations for him, since he got his GED.
“She’s not a prison type of person”. I don’t think ANYONE is a prison type of person!
C: That’s how we got into the mess that we’re in, re: prisons. People deciding that there are “prison types.”
It drives me crazy that she said “so I can make something of myself.” YOU ARE ALREADY SOMETHING. You always have been something. I think the idea that you have to achieve a certain thing to merit considering yourself something (a la capitalism) is really dangerous.
M: Yeah, you’re a mom! And a person! And a sister!
C:This reminds me a little too much of the “dudes should care about breast cancer bc mother/sister/daughter/wife” bullshit. Like, you’re only valuable in relationship to other people, not by yourself.
M: Yeah, but I think it’s also devaluing her identity as a mom. (If that’s how she wants to be identified). Parenting isn’t “making something of herself” yet. She just has to raise a child and then she can become a full person hopefully afterwards.
C: True. I feel like that’s what she’s thinking, though, maybe? Like parenting isn’t something?
I don’t want to put words in her mouth. It’s complicated, of course, and it needs to stay that way.
M: Truth. Let’s end by sending love to Summer and baby! (And puppy!)
C: His name is Otis. I decided that. Til next week, folks.