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This week, we have Ariana from Smyrna, Georgia. Per usual, you can watch the whole episode here.
Megan: Wow, again with the appearance related to pregnancy. Usually it’s weight, but this time it’s about skin/acne and not being able to take antibiotics. They are really selling not getting pregnant to the teens. WHOA, they mentioned abortion!
Chanel: They said it! It’s a word! It’s a thing! Ariana didn’t consider it. but at least we’re hearing about options.
M: What is senior kidnapping?
C: I have no idea, but it makes me think of Gilmore Girls.
M: I hadn’t thought about what my pregnancy dance was going to be when I have a baby but I am now reconsidering that life choice.
C: I think that’s wise.
Also, I love Ariana’s friends. They are really good at being her friends.
M: Agree. Unconditionally supportive.
C: Ariana she could still get a phd. Maybe not now (but also maybe now), but I don’t want her to think that she can’t ever do it. Making adjustments to the plan is not the same thing as lowering your standards for yourself.
I’m glad she said being in labor is really scary, bc it looks really scary.
M: I also like that she talked to her grandmother about her own birth experience, even though we didn’t see much about it here.
“Seeing him being born meant the world to me.” Even though things aren’t working out between the two of them, it’s nice that he can express that.
C: I hate that Maurice STILL thinks he didn’t do anything wrong. I feel like MTV thrives on making us think that these girls are just crazy, manipulative psychos because they want dudes to do something concrete.
M: Yeah, he also should have stopped talking after that sentence. Also, how powerless must it make you feel to be in a hospital bed with someone holding your newborn baby who won’t hand him back over to you. Trapped.
C: Everyone in this situation is terrified, but expressing it differently.
M: So true. What is the reasoning behind not dropping off the stuff? Maybe that his connection to the baby will be lost once he does that? She has no reason to contact him after that if she doesn’t want to?
C: Maybe. Ownership seems to be a big theme this season so far.
She’s not dramatic, Maurice’s mom. WHY ARE YOU DEFENDING HIM??
M: She only has one side of the story.
C: You don’t have to do it alone, Arianna. You have people with you.
Oh, enjoying it! that’s a thing I feel like we don’t talk about on this show very often- that parenting is a thing you might enjoy. Gloria Malone tweeted about that the other day.
I imagine that people are thinking A is punishing M by not letting him see the baby. And also about not breast feeding. I used to read the comments under the episodes, but i stopped because they made me want to set everything on fire.
M: I don’t know why, but I decided to look at the comments after I read that. And it just makes me really glad we are writing this.
M: I really like the dramatic diaper changing music.
C: It seems like the right choice. This is pretty dramatic.
M: Stop everything. Baby Air Jordans.
C: Air Jordans are still a thing?
M: Baby Air Jordans are. You’re welcome.
C: Ugh, back to the skin again. Stoppppp.
Ariana: “It’ll make me more mature, but do I necessarily want it to be right now? No.I dont’ want to be a mom right now.” Real talk. You can have multiple feelings at the same time, people. She can be glad Aiden is alive and also wish this all wasn’t the case right now.
Okay, I have to bring this up again- the obsession with the two parent family. It’s literally every week. I theoretically understand-like, two people makes it easier. And nuclear families are seen as “normal.” And fear. But the most important thing is not actually that a kid has two parents.
M: I agree, but I also think it’s more complicated, because for Arianna and Maurice their desire for the dad to be in the picture is based on real and hurtful losses that they have both experienced.
C: I think it mostly always is on this show.
M: I am glad that he apologized, but I also think he has a point that they both need to apologize!
C: Yes. She can be angry and not want to apologize and be a good parent, and I think that’s where people lose sight of the ball. (I’m thinking of the comments.) Again, people can be many things.
C: Oh, good, he gets that he wasn’t being a support system for her. That’s better than him still thinking she’s deranged. TAKE NOTES, OTHER DUDES.
Is that cake? She has a cake box. Now I want cake.
M: You seem very hungry today.
C: I’m being manipulated by MTV. As I am most days.
M: Love to Ariana and baby!