Megan: The one-sentence summary of this episode calls Jazmin a “sassy midwestern teen”. I’m pretty sure sassy is another word we should eliminate.
Chanel: Agreed. Unless you’re talking about the superb yet now defunct magazine.
M: There’s no mention of abortion, and I wonder how much their religious household played into the decision to parent.
C: You can, however, tell your daughter you’re “majorly disappointed in her.”
M: Jazmin: “I thought birth control would make me fat”. She was also worried that it would cause hair loss.
C: Where did Jazmin get her information about birth control? I feel like the thing about hair reeks of some kind of scary religious/abstinence only program.
M: There’s so much misinformation out there! I’ve had people tell me things they heard about birth control like it will make them unable to have a baby in the future, etc. It’s so easy to get myths and not facts when you’re not sure what websites and information are reputable.
C: J’s mom is really working this “you had so much potential” angle. She still has potential. That’s what potential IS. You always have it.
M: It’s so true. Potential isn’t something you lose when you become pregnant. That just speaks to the way we equate careers with identity and devalue parenting.
C: Oh man, her mom is so sure Dell’s going to screw up.
M: It’s pretty amazing that they are still enforcing the “house rules” (no staying over after 10 PM, no sex) given the situation. It’s another example of how complicated it is when you are trying to parent a parent.
C: They’re so mad. I feel like this is all about shaming.
M: Yeah, they can’t get over the betrayal they feel about the “rule breaking”.
C: Which I feel like is no longer the point.
M: Definitely no longer the point! The whole situation has changed. They have to shift the way they are defining their relationships and what is going on.
C: OH WHAT? “Her legs are crossed, she’s already a little lady.”
M: Oh thank goodness. That way we can wait a few days before we put the bow on her.
C: I just feel like it’s an extension of the shaming re: female sexuality that is all over this episode. Starting early.
M: It’s so terrible! What they are doing is really shaming their daughter and putting all of the childcare responsibility on her.
C: Yep. It’s that bullshit about making your bed and lying in it.
M: It’s also no wonder that there has been so much gendered talk in this episode given that her parents have no qualms about her having to take care of the child by herself without her boyfriend.
C:OH, “when you do things out of Gd’s order….” Right. I forgot about Gd’s order. Maybe they could remind me again.
M: Jazmin’s friend: “Respecting the rules of the house, and raising a daughter, you realize those two things aren’t compatible, right?”
C: Her parents are just not even giving them a change to make it. I mean, they need help. Resent all you want, but don’t sabotage.
M: It also makes me angry that Jazmin and Dell now think that they shouldn’t have had sex and feel guilty about it. Those aren’t the only two options.
C: Yes! This whole episode is such a classic example of what happens when young women learn that they should be ashamed of sex and their bodies AND are given bad/no information about birth control. I’m so mad right now.
M: I would like to end by sending love to Jazmin and baby, and also encouraging Jazmin to check out Scarleteen.