Being involved in social media can expose you to a lot of anti-choice misogyny, especially if you happen to be a pro-choice activist. Coming across anti-choice propaganda is pretty much inevitable for us. I used to seek out this anti-choice propaganda, but now that I feel like I’ve seen it all, I try to avoid it. Having been exposed to all of this misogyny and propaganda, I’ve learned a lot of things about the anti-choice side. One thing in particular that I’ve noticed is that the anti-choice movement is similar to a club, and the loudest anti-choicers are very picky about who they accept into this club.
If you go onto a few of the loudest anti-choice websites, you’ll see a recurring theme. You’ll see that nearly all of these organizations take an anti-trans, anti-homosexuality stance. You’ll see that these organizations are very conservative in nature, and they promote hostility towards Muslims, immigrants, atheists, etc. I often imagine myself as an anti-choicer (as if that would ever happen!) and I think that, even if I wanted to be anti-choice, could I bring myself to do it? Could I bring myself to join a movement that calls half of my family (Muslims) terrorists who are trying to invade the USA? Could I bring myself to join a movement that actively promotes hatred towards my trans sisters and brothers? Could I bring myself to join a movement that considers a lot of people who I love somehow less deserving of human rights than white, straight, and cis people? No, I couldn’t.
I’ve noticed a lot of bickering amongst antis whenever I visit anti-choice communities. There’s a lot of debate over who is really “pro-life” and who isn’t. I’ve seen antis claim that you can’t be “pro-life” if you’re pro-gay marriage. I’ve seen them claim that, regarding abortion, if you make exceptions for the life of the woman then you are suddenly just another “pro-abort.” Well known anti-choice sites, like Jill Stanek’s for example, take an anti-trans and anti-gay stance. There is also the issue of religion. Most anti-choice communities are solely Christian, and although they may accept atheists or agnostics into their club (with some reluctance), there tends to be quite a bit of hostility between religious antis and secular antis. It makes me think: what do antis think they’re doing for their movement by being hostile and divisive? I don’t know, but I’m glad as hell that hostility amongst pro-choicers is not nearly as common.
This is something that I love about the pro-choice movement. I love the cause itself, for one, but I also love the community. Before becoming an active member of the pro-choice movement I struggled to find my place. When I found the pro-choice movement, I felt welcome and wanted. Are we perfect? Of course not. No one, not even pro-choicers, are exempt from the possibility of promoting some type of hostility or hatred. However, when I visited anti-choice communities, even before developing my pro-choice ideals and before becoming a pro-choice advocate, the message they gave me was clear was clear: “We don’t want you here.” The hostility in anti-choice communities was much more apparent to me. For that reason, among others, I am proud to be pro-choice.