Junk Mail: Catching Up with Antis, Anti-Feminist Edition

15 Sep

A new series a la Anti-Feminist Mailbag where we respond to some of the hateful and/or bigoted comments we often get on our posts.

This comment was left in response to KushielsMoon’s post on college-bound feminists:

It will be difficult to make friends other than those few who share feminist views.  This is because the general perception of feminists today is as follows -

What is a feminist?

Feminists are resentful, belligerent and quarrelsome women.  They are also usually ignorant and misinformed with weak self control.  Feminists use to be called ‘men haters’ and ‘troublemakers’.  They have always been around throughout human history and their main intent is to create ill will, bad feeling, and malice between men and women.  The term to describe them is ‘misandrists’, who have an attitude of ‘misandry’.

The cause is the maternal instinct which regards men as either a mating object when in lust, or a potential danger to the family unit to be driven away when not, by making life as difficult as possible.  The male equivalent – male aggression – is the pack hunting instinct.  Throughout history this has resulted in armies and wars.

Mature and well balanced people recognise the problems and control their instincts and emotions using basic social skills and practical common sense, something the selfish feminist is very lacking in.

So if you want to make friends and be liked by the boys, avoid the feminist movement and it’s follower.

Though it continues to shock me that there are anti-feminists, there are in fact entire groups devoted to promoting misogyny.  Remarks like this may leave you speechless – it certainly took me more than a few minutes to digest it – so let’s dissect it one piece at a time. My comments are in bold.

It will be difficult to make friends other than those few who share feminist views.  This is because the general perception of feminists today is as follows - What is a feminist? Feminists are resentful, belligerent and quarrelsome women. Yes, sometimes feminists have had to fight to be heard, and yes an earlier generation of us burned their bras, and yes, I do resent every single instance of sexism – from the wage gap to those who believe little girls should not be given toy trucks to play with.  I don’t think that these are bad things though.

They are also usually ignorant and misinformed with weak self control.  Misinformed about what exactly?  Most feminists have a terrific grasp on the wage gap, on the availability of birth control/family planning/abortion clinics, the politics of candidates, and outside of gender specific issues, a grasp on current events, issues, and trends.

Feminists use to be called ‘men haters’ and ‘troublemakers’. Yes – by those who did not want to pay a woman as much as a man, or hire a woman who was equally qualified or let women’s votes sway the future of the country.  I like to call those people ‘short sighted’ because they sought to keep women from contributing to medicine, scientific discoveries, and our collective future.

They have always been around throughout human history and their main intent is to create ill will, bad feeling, and malice between men and women.  The term to describe them is ‘misandrists’, who have an attitude of ‘misandry’.  Actually, feminism is all about creating better relations between men and women – better, more equal, respectful, relations among all of us.  Feminism is not about hating men – it is about hating inequality.

The cause is the maternal instinct which regards men as either a mating object when in lust, or a potential danger to the family unit to be driven away when not, by making life as difficult as possible.  I’ve yet to meet a rational woman who sees men as strictly sperm donors or home invaders.  Yes, even lesbians have the ability to appreciate individual personalities that this commenter apparently lacks.

The male equivalent – male aggression – is the pack hunting instinct.  Throughout history this has resulted in armies and wars. I’m not even sure what this means… Did I miss history class the day they covered a war between men and women or an army of women??  Note to future anti-feminist commenters: Coherency/logic would be appreciated.

Mature and well balanced people recognise [sic] the problems and control their instincts and emotions using basic social skills and practical common sense, something the selfish feminist is very lacking in.  I was so close to agreeing with this statement – besides the awful grammar of course – until the ‘selfish feminist’ line.  Most feminists sacrifice their time and contribute financially to help others build their lives – whether it is escorting at clinics, mentoring women entering the workforce, or those planning for retirement, lobby for laws to close the wage gap or to remove those that close off opportunity – they are anything but selfish.  Feminism is about all of us – across the spectrum of gender – doing better.  And when we all do better, we all do better.

So if you want to make friends and be liked by the boys, avoid the feminist movement and it’s [sic] follower [sic]Ladies, if you want to be liked by boys, then respect yourself and chase your dreams.  If you want to be in an abusive relationship with a misogynist who clearly has confused grown women with Disney villains, call this moron.

4 Responses to “Junk Mail: Catching Up with Antis, Anti-Feminist Edition”

  1. Not Guilty September 15, 2010 at 12:41 pm #

    FYI, “recognise” is the British spelling, also used in Australia, so that kinda gives us an idea as to where this person is from/learned English (Europeans learn UK English). Totally irrelevant but I have nothing to add otherwise :). Awesome retorts. Hope this fool comes back, he adds humour.

  2. Shelby Knox September 15, 2010 at 1:09 pm #

    Great responses, Shayna! Thanks for taking on this tool. His name, evidently, is Dave and I think he has this rant written to copy and paste into comment sections on anything about feminism, as this exact comment – bad grammar and all – was posted yesterday on an interview with me at The Daily Femme (http://ht.ly/2EJtn ). I think it’s hilarious, both that he has so much time but not much originality and that perhaps the opposition is just one angry dude in his basement!

  3. Shayna September 15, 2010 at 4:06 pm #

    Shelby – Now I don’t feel as special!

    Kidding – it is amazing how little effort these idiots put into their misogynistic hate mail… if you’re going to spam the world with the same message over and over, wouldn’t you at least want to make sure it had decent spelling/punctuation??

  4. Kimberly September 15, 2010 at 4:23 pm #

    I followed a link to this blog post and I didn’t find this comment offensive, until I read that it was copied to another post. I’m taking it that there are several trolls who post similar comments on blogs that celebrate women.

    I’ve met “feminists” and feminists. The latter rarely has to fly flags showing what they believe. You find out their stance during exciting discussions. Feminists are, in my experience, very intelligent, well read, open minded women who love to share opinions. When I hear that someone is a feminist, I can’t wait to make my way across the room to monopolize their time, because I know I’m in for a great conversation.

    Now the “feminists” that I’ve met are the angry women who think that male bashing is the law of the land. They do wave a flag, letting everyone know that they can open their own damn door, thank you very much. They emasculate men for sport and are disgusted with women who shave their legs, wear dresses, and like the color pink.

    I haven’t met that many “feminists,” but those that crossed my path were young and lacked life experience. Gosh, I was a die hard Christian, Liberal, and Conservative at some point during my twenties. Now, at 39, I’m proud to say that I try to see every side of every subject.

    Now I’m excited for the next post and subsequent comments!

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