How often do you think about what you’re saying and doing?
When you scream “baby killer!” at the woman walking into an abortion clinic, have you considered the fact that women who have had miscarriages sometimes have to have an abortion to remove the dead fetus? Have you considered the fact that you can not differentiate between a woman who has had a miscarriage and a woman who has not just by looking at them? You do know that those women don’t have the word “MISCARRIAGE” written across their foreheads, correct? Do you know that many people who have had miscarriages blame themselves for the death of the embryo? Can you imagine how it would feel to have someone call you a baby killer for having a miscarriage? What about the other women, how are you helping them by calling them baby killers?
When you call women who have had an abortion “selfish,” are you aware of the fact that 1 in 3 women will have an abortion by the age of 45? Are you aware of the fact that you most likely know and care about someone who has had an abortion? How do you think she feels when you call her a selfish murderer? What if she regrets her abortion? Can you imagine how badly it would hurt to regret an abortion and have someone call you “selfish” for something that you are already in pain from? What about women who don’t regret their abortions? Why are you trying to scare them into silence?
When you tell a woman that adoption will solve all of her problems, do you consider the fact that adoption leaves a lot of women in pain? Do you tell her that adoption leaves a lot of women in pain, or do you conveniently hide that fact and pretend that adoption is a pain-free choice? Do you consider the fact that, for some women, adoption just will not do because the pregnancy itself is traumatic? After all, I’m sure you know that you do have to go through a pregnancy to give a child up for adoption. What about those women? What are you doing for them?
When you stalk a woman through the parking lot as she’s trying to walk into an abortion clinic, do you ever stop to think about how that makes the woman feel? How would you feel if a group of people were following you and yelling at you as you were trying to go to the dentist’s? Are you aware that you come off as predatory?
When you say “I’m against abortion except for cases of rape,” do you ask yourself why you believe that? Are you okay with abortion in cases of rape because it wasn’t her fault? If so, are you aware that you’re just punishing women for having sex (because, according to that logic, it was her fault)? Are you okay with abortion in cases of rape because a rape pregnancy can screw up a person emotionally? If so, are you aware of the fact that any forced pregnancy can screw up a person emotionally?
When you call people who provide abortions baby killers, mass murderers, Nazis, etc, do you ever stop to think about the effects that this has on the lives of abortion providers? Do you ever stop to think about the fact that the people who have murdered abortion providers think exactly the same way that you do in this regard (and it’s no coincidence)? Have you ever read an abortion provider’s story? Do you think it’s okay that abortion provider’s must live in fear of being murdered? Do you think it’s okay that their families must live in fear of being murdered? Do you care?
I don’t expect to change any hearts with this post, but who knows. If I can get one person to stop and think about their actions, it’s worth it.
Reema (aka ProChoiceGal)