Pro-Choice by Nature.

20 Mar

I was Pro-Choice before I knew that there was any other way to be.  My mother is Pro-Choice, and explained to me very early on that having a baby before I was ready would drastically alter the course of my life, would take away the future I was working toward, and derail my ambitions for the future.  In Hebrew School from until age 16, Judaism taught me to put the health (mental and physical) of the mother first.

I first appreciated the choices that Pro-Choice represents, from abstinence to abortion, when I was in high school and watched approximately ten classmates give birth, many of whom dropped out, a couple of whom graduated, and none went on to college.  I saw star athletes and sassy drama girls fade away.  I saw opportunities vanish, and dreams turn into a lifetime of waitressing, and welfare checks.

In the 7 years since I graduated high school I have seen many of these girls, tired and worn out at 25, exhausted by a hard life and unable to ever get back the potential that was drained out of them.

–          I am Pro-Choice because I have never understood the wisdom in children having children

–          I am Pro- Choice because having a baby should never be a punishment for teenage sex (or anything else).

I have never been pregnant, however, like most teenage girls, young women, and professional women, over the years I have run the scenarios through my mind.  What I would do.  Because I have choices.  I have the power to choose what I want to do.

–          I am Pro-Choice because my body is my own.

–          I am Pro-Choice because saying anyone else has a say, says that my body can be taken hostage.

My future is my own.  Whether, and to whom I marry is my decision.  Whether and where I move for work, for the weather or any other reason is my decision.  How I save for retirement is my decision. What charities I support is my decision.  Whether and when I have children (and how many) is my decision.

–          I am Pro-Choice because everyone should have the opportunity to live happily ever after.

4 Responses to “Pro-Choice by Nature.”

  1. Persephone March 20, 2010 at 5:39 pm #

    I am Pro- Choice because having a baby should never be a punishment for teenage sex (or anything else).

    I love your reasons for being pro-choice, especially the quite above. I honestly think that for many pro-lifers it’s more about punishment for sex than the life of a child. I wish we could get to a place where everyone knows that consensual sex is a good thing and not deserving of any kind of punishment.

  2. Shayna March 20, 2010 at 8:48 pm #

    Thank you! I distinctly remember a girl who got pregnant, and gave birth, whose mother made her keep the baby as a screwed up kind of ‘you break it you bought it’ policy… buh-bye athletic scholarship… the worst irony was that the mother was herself a single mother who gave birth to her as a teen – she was a grandmother at 30.

  3. Jaleesa April 27, 2010 at 10:59 pm #

    I honestly think that for many pro-lifers it’s more about punishment for sex than the life of a child. I wish we could get to a place where everyone knows that consensual sex is a good thing and not deserving of any kind of punishment.

    I think this as well. What’s sad about this view isn’t just that it continues to stigmatize sex, but also the possibility that it would force mothers (and fathers) to bring children into this world before they’re ready to do so, and it ultimately stress the resources of the larger community in the long run. Kids need care, and it’s more cruel to raise children in an environment where they won’t be properly cared for than to choose not to bring them into the world at all.

    I found this via Tumblr. This post is spreading like wildfire over there! I’m so glad I came to this post, because it’s introduced me to an awesome new blog to read.🙂

  4. Shayna April 28, 2010 at 9:13 am #

    Wow — I had no idea this was getting spread! But am totally thrilled😀

    Glad you found us Jaleesa! And I agree – forced pregnancy is a strain on what are already scarce community resources!

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